I'm in a Reset Era
I didn’t wake up one day and decide to “start over.” That word feels dramatic. And honestly, I’ve been saying it for years without actually doing it and I’m over it, lol. This is a new season for me. For me, this season is about choosing peace, confidence, and a future that feels good to live in.
Recently, I came out of a season that drained me emotionally. I learned the hard way that breaking no-contact with someone who isn’t good for you usually brings the same lesson wrapped in a different package. And while I don’t judge myself for it, I do choose to grow from it. What’s not meant for you will disappoint you a thousand times. If love is meant to grow with me, it will. If not, I will still grow regardless. 😉
For a long time, I let relationships take priority over my dreams. I paused my goals while chasing comfort outside of myself and lost pieces of who I am along the way. I’m looking clearly now and moving forward and that’s why this season matters so much. Right now, I’m choosing to surrender.
At the same time, I’ve been navigating growth as a mother. My daughter is 23, and we had a heated argument about some difficult conversations. I’ve never claimed to be perfect. Parenting didn’t come naturally to me — but love for my babies always did. I’m owning what I missed, releasing what no longer serves us, and doing better where I can.
As long as I’m here, I will always try for my children.
Sometimes I didn’t always model the structure or stability that I wish I had. That’s something I own so I’m not blaming anyone. Only awareness and responsibility and I’m grateful for that. I love my babies regardless, and the Lord’s will, we will slowly grow better and still learn and try to do better. Growth is rarely graceful.
I call this my second adulthood.
I’ve believed in blogging for years, and I’ve watched it change lives. I’ve started and stopped more times than I can count, but this time feels different. Not because I’m more confident — but because I’m committed to make this work. I might be one of the biggest procrastinators ever, but during those pauses I was learning about digital products, creativity, and online income. Now I’m ready to build with intention instead of hesitation. I can’t change the past, but I can create a better future — for myself and my children — with more structure, direction, and purpose.
Lately, everything felt louder than it needed to be. My patience was thin, my focus was scattered, and my energy was pulled in too many directions. That’s when I knew I had to slow down and really look at what I wanted. For the first time, I actually did. And honestly… I’m feeling mentally better than I have in a long time.
I’ve been learning more about my iPad and discovered Goodnotes, and it has been perfect for the weekly and daily planners and trackers I made for myself. Planning finally feels calming instead of overwhelming. These are tools I actually use — not to be perfect, but to stay present and consistent. Maybe they can help you too. ❤
You’re allowed to reset anytime without explanation. You don’t need permission or a dramatic backstory. You don’t owe anyone justification for choosing to become a better version of yourself. Resetting isn’t failure — it’s awareness. It’s realizing something no longer fits and deciding to listen.
Resetting in my 40s looks like this for me:
- Releasing what drains me
- Building routines that protect my mental and emotional health
- Learning new skills
- Creating income on my own terms
I recently started this blog because I wanted something that truly felt like mine — something that lets me grow creatively and financially while still honoring my need for softness and peace.
This space will be where I document my journey — the mindset shifts, the lessons, and the glow-up — and next, I’ll be sharing the digital planners and downloads I’m creating as part of building a more intentional life.
This is my reset. This is my reinvention. And it’s only the beginning.
If you’re in a new season, tell me where you’re from — I’d love to know. Thank you for reading.
Welcome to my blog honeybee!
Tanisha Monique | Her Digital Dreams 💖
Love & Happiness Always
